Remedies for the Heart

With the clock ticking every second and movement being the characteristic of time, it's fierce repercussions are brought on to the heart especially to the one who's sensitive and without any work or responsibility. How should this movement be justified by one's action is a constant source of confusion but there is none when there exists action of any sort. Hence, action is the only remedy for an existentially aching heart. We think a movie, our favorite music, will do the trick but it will only continue to do so for when is lasts. There is a return of the mind to the point where it was before the intervention, hence the only solution is getting work done. Running away from one's work is like floating in a pool of anxiety, which continues to rise until it finally drowns the individual. 

A little boy was sad that he did not get his favorite present on Christmas so he brought all of his vengeance within him to school and started bullying others since he was physically imposing as compared to his classmates. He started believing he was in the 'naughty list' and all hell started breaking loose at once. His parents could not understand what could have ticked their child off after hearing ruthless soundings of complain from his teachers. When confronted he broke down and said "If Santa thinks of me as a 'naughty boy', then I will show him how naughty I can really be". The Santa is our own expectations that we have of ourself, even a slight 'falling short' leads to such nasty repercussions that we become the 'naught boy'. Procrastination, is the most used term of the decade and probably worse than laziness. Knowing what you have to do and continuing to not do so is a tragedy. That is the beginning of the aching heart.

A romantic heart ache is a whole another ball game altogether. It is shattering and more devastating that an existential heart ache, Here, you have found this 'perfect person' who's like a light in your life. You attach yourself to that light and learn to read, walk and live in that light. The comforts of that relationship take all your doubts away and make you feel 'not lonely' for at least a few moments. Those moments shared become the highlight of your day and slowly and steadily take up a huge amount of space in your life. When there's no reciprocation of that intensity and passion, the relationship eventually fails leaving the one 'who loved' devastated. That heart ache is terrible and is difficult to move on from. Mostly because, you're not just dealing with the absence of someone with whom you experienced great intimacy but also a host of other problems. How to go back and revert to that state when the mind has gotten used to something more exciting, novel and extravagant?

In such cases I feel, only time (movement alluded to in the first paragraph) can help heal the possible wounds. The first few months are the hardest but it gets easier every month until eventually the time spent with that special person only remains as a faint memory. Music, movies, novels. spirituality - anything might help! But we do move on no matter the magnitude of the heart ach experiences. Hence, time, action and faith are all remedies for an aching heart.