Family is everything

Children are the future! and the job of parents is to make sure they build the necessary environment for their children to flourish. The goal of reproduction is facilitate the evolution of humanity. Yet, there remains so much bickering between the young and the old. A family where all individuals are thoughtful, conscious of other's needs and accommodating is truly unheard of especially in 2022. There are times when the little misunderstandings keep compounding and eventually there's a release or a blast of all the unexpressed feelings and rage which materializes in the form of fights, arguments and other all out wars between family members. And so it is hard to imagine or reflect upon the absolute necessity of a family! It's all about the individual, isn't it?

I look at my Mom and I'm so proud of her principles and conduct. Her discipline, rigor and social graces are almost perfect to a fault. I cannot imagine how on earth, does she do so much for our lazy asses all the time. She loves the family. On the other hand, my father is a difficult man to live with, who is often consumed by his short temperedness which is fired upon unassuming people. He's extremely sociable and is beyond extroverted and that's why it will be hard for his friends to believe that he is irascible almost always, except when he's enjoying his drink or he's genuinely happy about something. I wish I could've solved the puzzle to understand that why is he the way he is but some things remain beyond our control. I am fearful of him, not of him but of his reaction which is generally something that's vile, illogical and loud. Whenever he responds like that, it sounds like someone hurling abuses. I wish our relationship was such in which I could be more open and relate my ideas and experiences which are in vast abundance to him. Sadly, as I observed all of this while growing up I shrank in my shell, not wanting to get out, waiting for the storm to pass not realizing that the storm is most of the times made by my own mind. 

The idea of a 'perfect family' is quixotic. Between family members- misunderstandings, confrontations and fallouts are common. If you are at peace with the different of opinions that exist within a family of four and can still complete the familial responsibilities with honest intentions and love, then you can indeed call yourself a member of your family. Otherwise, it is just not! Despite the above rant about my father, I love him and he loves me. We might never say it out loud but it's know to the both of us and I will continue to take care of him till god permits me to. The point is, it's going to be messy! but it's a good mess, the one that makes us laugh wildly, giggle incessantly and feel joy tremendously. I love my family and would do anything for them!